Posted in Genitals: A User's Guide

Reduce and reuse…

Just a quick reminder that not all period products are disposable. We already looked at period products in some detail here.

When we talk about periods in schools, most people seem to know about tampons and sanitary pads. Menstral or ‘moon’ cups however, seem to be a little less well know about and to cause alarm. Made from a soft rubber-like material, they can be squigged a little to fit in to the vagina, where they they retain their shape and stay in place in the vagina. There it collects blood. It can be emptied, washed and reused. They can also be sterilised in between uses – the one I use recommends either boiling it or using baby bottle steriliser in between cycles.

Several companies have started making moon cups. Most are a basic ‘cup’ design but come in different sizes. oftentimes the little ‘pull’ at the bottom of the cup to help remove them is a slightly different shape too.

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Washable pads are a bit more conceptually easier to get your head around! Just like disposable sanitary pads, they can be washed after each use.

Or of course, there’s… IMG_0746.jpeg

‘Freebleeding’ means not trying to stop the blood flowing in any way. For now, accounts of free bleeding seem largely restricted to those making a political statement or investigative journalists… but maybe that’s something that will change in the future!

 

 

Posted in Anatomy, Genitals: A User's Guide

Rubber Band Theory…

In schools at least, some variation of this question is reasonably common – people worry either that a vagina isn’t big enough to accommodate a penis/sex toy/ tampon, or that it will become stretched out of shape by any of those things.

The vagina is a tube, about 8cm long. It isn’t quite hollow – but it can stretch a lot. To make space for a baby’s head, for example – which is much  bigger than pretty much any penis.

The vagina might change shape after childbirth (after any number of children). But the idea of it becoming ‘baggy’ is probably more of an exaggeration.

 

 

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My Clear Vision for 2020!

Here are my (blogging) new year’s resolutions…

(also fine if you want to shave it off – it’s yours!)

I look forward to spending lots of 2020 with menstral cups and 3D printed clitorises (as I did for much of 2019).

Sex is literally what you make of it. Also, for those of you living in London, UK – why not check out Sexual Health London’s online and home testing kits?!

Happy New Year and let’s go for a patriarchy smashing 2020

XOXOXOX

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Just Add Water…

There are a vast array of sprays, wipes, lotions and potions to clean the vagina on sale. They are often sold under the umbrella of ‘feminine hygiene products’. But remember…

Unusual discharge (i.e. in smell, colour or consistency) can be a sign that something isn’t right. However, it is a normal function of the vagina to produce secretions…

See here for more details.

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What is Sex?!

Both as a Doctor and as a Sex Ed Facilitator, I get asked questions about sex a lot. Sometimes this is in spaces that are designed for that, such as a in classroom sessions. Sometimes it’s a furtive WhatsApp query from a friend or someone ‘@ing’ me. Today I’m starting a collection of some responses to some of the interesting ones.

This one ‘comes up’ in that it’s one we tend to pose to explore assumptions children and sometimes adults have…

*Heteronormativity. It happens.

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Bloody Periods

Much of my primary school experience rolls in to one, but learning about periods is one of the more vivid memories I have.  All of the girls in year 6  were segregated from the boys, marched off into an assembly room and shown a video.  We were each given a bag of period products at the end.  I don’t know what the boys learnt about.   They might have been shown the same video.   They were definitely not given the goody bags, as this later became a point of contention!

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This was in the 90s, so we were limited to being told about disposable tampons and sanitary pads.  Overall, we weren’t given any guidance on why we might want to use a certain type of product over another.  We were only told how they worked in very basic terms.  Talking to other friends about managing periods, very specific individual needs and preferences need to be taken in to account.  For example, I hate using anything disposable because of the environmental impact.  I also can’t get over the similarity in principle between nappies and sanitary pads and find this really off-putting.  One of my friends however, just doesn’t feel she would every be comfortable inserting a tampon.  Another feels the same way as I do about disposable period items but can’t bring herself to wash and use a menstral cup.  Here’s a rundown of some of the things people do with their period blood.  I’ve based this information on mine and friends’ experience of using various methods and medical experience, as well as questions that come up a lot in sex ed workshops…

TAMPONS

A bundle of soft, absorbent material which is inserted in to the vagina to soak up blood.   They sometimes come with ‘applicators’ – card or plastic tubes that help to insert the tampon further in to the vagina.  There is a string that sits outside the vagina, which can be pulled to remove the tampon.  The tampon (but not the packaging or any applicator) is designed to be flushed down the toilet, like toilet paper.   They are a disposable method, so obviously have an environmental impact.   Manufacturers often suggest leaving them in for between 4-8 hours.  They come in various sizes – smaller tampons absorb less blood and so are for lighter periods, larger ones for heavier periods.   Tampons seem to be the period product that people frequently concerns about:

  1. Toxic Shock Syndrome.  This is an infection that can be caused by a foreign object left in the body for a long time, including a tampon.  It is quite rare though, especially if tampons are changed regularly.
  2. Penetration.  Many people have worries about it being painful to insert a tampon.  Tampons are typically only a couple of inches long though, which is much smaller than some of the other things that people easily fit in and out of vaginas (baby’s heads, dildos and penises for a start!).   It might take a bit of practice to do it easily, but many people find that this is something they can learn to do.  Others worry that it ‘counts’ as losing your virginity if you’ve used a tampon before you’ve had penetrative penis-in-vagina sex.  ‘Losing your virginity’ is a social construct which relates to what you find arousing so this is just not true for most people!
  3. Getting stuck.  As someone who’s been the oncall doctor for an out of hours Gynaecology service, this is something this does sometimes happen.  People do insert tampons which they later feel they can’t remove.  However, there are manoeuvres you can try that really do work… and if it doesn’t I’ve never seen a ‘stuck’ tampon that couldn’t be removed easily in a clinic setting.

MENSTRUAL CUPS

These are my personal period product of choice!  The can take some getting used to and you may well splash a small amount of blood about getting to grips with them.  But once you have you may grow to love these reusable, washable devices that sit in the vagina and collect blood.  This is then emptied in to the toilet bowl.  The cup can be washed with water in between uses and sterilised in between cycles, so is completely reusable and produces minimum waste.  Cups don’t seem to be very widespread at the moment – I found out about them from a sticker on the back of a loo door!  There are several different brands.  I use Mooncup – basically because this was the only one that was available at the Chemists when I bought mine.  I’ve been told by a friend that their sizing is not the best however.  All manufacturers make cups of different sizes, again according to how heavy a person’s period is.

SANITARY TOWELS

Pads or towels are absorbent material made in to a pad that lines your underwear.  Unlike tampons, there is usually a large plastic component, which is not possible to flush down the toilet.   Reusable pads – ones that can be washed and reused – are becoming more widely available. They can be bought or made.  Free patterns for making your own are available online, such as here from Luna Wolf.  More recently pads seem to have been extended to ‘period pants‘ – where the bit that soaks up the blood is built in to underwear and the whole thing is washed.  

FREE BLEEDING

There is of course the ‘do nothing’ option.  Some people choose to sidestep all of the above and opt for free bleeding.  This is when nothing is used to collect period blood and someone simply allows their clothing to soak it up.  This often seems to be done as a point of political protest, such as against the ‘tampon tax’.  This might partly be because free bleeding in and of itself is seen as a political act, such as when runner Kirin Gandhi free bled during the London Marathon.  There are probably many more people who unintentionally or unwillingly free bleed, due to lack of period product resources.   ‘Period poverty’ seems to be an issue worldwide, with campaigns against it evident in both developed and developing countries.

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Lark in A Park

As well as facilitating Sex Ed workshops in schools for the last month, I’ve been involved in a few events aimed exclusively at adults.  Although the style of presentation has been different, these have all involved using an arts & crafts or D.I.Y approach.  These events reaffirmed my belief in this as a particularly good medium for exploring personal issues in a fun, engaging and accessible way.

The first was a ‘genital making’ workshop, hosted by the Candid Collective.  Adapted from an activity used to teach children about anatomy, puberty and health, this saw us showing adults how to make vulvas and penises with air drying clay to then be turned in to fridge magnets!  Held in a cosy upstairs room of a pub in South London, it had a very different feel to the classroom and was lots of fun.

The second was a talk for the antiuniversity lecture series – in which a group of us took to a local park to talk about arts and craft as a medium for discussing bodies and our own experiences of sex ed.  This culminated in making a ‘zine page about some of the issues that had been brought up.

There are a couple of future crafting themed sex and relationship events (in London) for adults that you may be interested in:

Thanks to Lisa, Leah, Adam and Bel for the images!

 

 

 

Posted in Genitals: A User's Guide

Blue Waffle with a Side of Misogyny…

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Sometimes being a facilitator for Sexplain involves attempting to hold the attention of young people through wit, honesty and sheer confidence as you explain a specific curriculum point as your unembarrassable self.  At other times it involves asking questions your audience may not have considered before and standing back whilst a tide of answers hits you.

“Can anyone name any sexually transmitted infections?”  My colleague asked of a group of year 10 students just outside of London.  Three off us were delivering a workshop on sexual health.  This was definitely going to be one of the latter type of encounters.  Luckily, this group wasn’t a shy one and answers came flooding forward.

“Chlamydia”, “syphillis”,  and “gonorrhea” were proffered.  All good answers and affirmed as such.

“Mono” was suggested, the infection also going by the name of ‘mononucleosis’ or ‘glandular fever’ – the ‘kissing disease’.  By our extremely wide definition of ‘sex’ (any behaviour that someone finds arousing) completely valid and a good opportunity to bring this in.

“HIV” was another suggestion, to me offered surprisingly late.  Once seen as the sexually transmitted infection in the UK, hopefully this reflects a reduction in stigma and fear around this disease as treatment and prevention becomes so incredibly effective.

“Crabs” one pupil proffered- a nice segue in to talking about parasites.  Another good talking point.

And then it came. The complete surprise.

“Blue waffle” one student called out.

This caught me by surprise a little.  I had heard of this before, but only come across it in training and never actually in the classroom before.

If you haven’t come across it before, blue waffle is a fictional STI.  It was something that Amelia and Hazel, Sexplain’s Founders had come across when talking to children in their research original work.  The story doing the rounds at the time was that blue waffle was a disease contracted by women who had had a large number of sexual partners.  At the time a google image search would return pictures of vulvas covered in lesions- very nasty looking lumps and bumps.  To my clinical eye, some of the images looked to be lesions caused by genital warts.  Others looked like erosion and growths caused by vulval cancers.  Interestingly (and perhaps not surprisingly) the rumour ran that it was transmitted to people with vulvas and did not trouble penises at all.  Even though this is how the disease was said to be spread.  Turns out misogyny can be a powerful vehicle for keeping a lie alive – who’d have thought it!

This turned out to be the case for the young person who had introduced it in to the classroom in this instance.  He was quite resistant to my telling him that it was a made-up thing.

“But Miss, if you look on Google, there are pictures!”

I tried to gently unpack this, explaining what I thought these images were actually of.  It was a nice opportunity for a discussion about being critical of sources, particularly those on the internet.  However, I left with the distinct impression that I had only created an aura of doubt in this person’s mind.  I had not completely convinced him it was a total urban myth and an element of belief in blue waffle remained.