Today I was at a teaching session for trainee Obstetrician/Gynaecologists. At one point, these words were uttered:
“If a woman’s been told by her boyfriend that her vulva looks abnormal, it’s YOUR job, especially YOU [points to the two men in the room] to say that you’ve seen far more than him & it ISN’T.”
Insecurities about genitals is the idea behind The Great Wall of Vagina (dull accuracy announcement: it’s actually vulvas, not vaginas, but still great).
There is a huge amount of variation in how external genitalia look. Humans have a great variety in height, build and skin tone. We are all so different that we find it remarkable when we find someone whose face is a little like ours. Why would this be any different in your nether regions?